visitation rights
November 18, 2009 | 20,00 EUR | answered by Dr. Dr. Danjel-Philippe Newerla
How can I regulate the interaction between the father (who lives 200 km away) and the daughter (2 years old)? He would like to have a arrangement through the youth welfare office! What concessions do I have to make, as the youth welfare office has told me that I have to bear the majority of the costs that arise for him and I have a duty to facilitate since I have moved away. I am now very unsure. I hope you can tell me more about this.
Christiane Protze
Dear advice seeker,
Thank you for your inquiry!
Taking into account the information you provided, I am happy to answer the questions you have summarized as follows:
Firstly, I would like to note that I find it very nice that both you and the child's father are willing to seek help from the Youth Welfare Office. This of course makes things easier. The Youth Welfare Office may have some valid points in their considerations. However, it is not necessarily legally required for you to bear the majority of the costs or always have to bring the child to the father, for example.
The core issue in a custody agreement to be concluded before a Youth Welfare Office is that the arrangement made serves the best interests of the child.
There is a certain amount of flexibility in this regard and it is also a matter of negotiation. In my opinion, a fair solution would be to take turns. For example, one weekend the father could pick up the child, and the next weekend you could bring the child to the father.
It may also be possible, given the young age of the child, for the father not to take the child with him, but rather just visit for a few hours at your place. Due to the relatively large distance, the father may not agree to this, but you could still suggest it.
Ultimately, I strongly advise you to speak again with the child's father about this and then contact the Youth Welfare Office again to propose a different solution. I would like to emphasize once again that these are just suggestions from the Youth Welfare Office based on their practical experiences. Certain compromises are possible, as long as they do not harm the best interests of the child.
I hope that my explanations have helped you. You are welcome to contact me through the follow-up option on this portal or via my email address for further assistance.
I would like to remind you of the following: The legal advice I provide is based solely on the information you have provided. My response is only a preliminary legal assessment of the situation and may not replace a comprehensive assessment. Adding or omitting relevant information can lead to a completely different legal evaluation.
I wish you a pleasant Wednesday afternoon!
Best regards,
Dipl.-Jur. Danjel-Philippe Newerla, Attorney
Heilsbergerstr. 16
27580 Bremerhaven
kanzlei.newerla@web.de
Tel. 0471/3088132
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